The emotional lives of teenagers : raising connected, capable, and compassionate adolescents / Lisa Damour, PhD.
An urgently needed guide to help parents understand their teenagers' emotional highs and lows--and how to support their sons and daughters through this critical development stage--from the New York Times bestselling author of Untangled and Under Pressure. In teenagers, powerful emotions are the rule, not the exception. Unfortunately, many of today's parents now regard their teens' negative feelings as disruptive, dangerous, or diagnosable, thanks to the rise of the wellness industry and the widespread use of psychotropic drugs. To make matters worse, the global pandemic, academic pressure, social media stress, and a bleak environmental future have left today's teenagers feeling overwhelmed. Parents who read this book will learn: a teenager's mental health isn't just about "feeling good," it's about having the appropriate feelings at the appropriate time, parents can help their teens regulate those feelings to avoid emotional floods, strategies to keep teens from being overwhelmed by their emotions, so that kids aren't at the mercy of their moods, how to connect with their teens to facilitate open, honest conversations, how to deal with their teens' arguments, risk taking, romance, friendships, social media, and much more. With concrete, relatable explanations embedded in vibrant, real-life anecdotes, The Emotional Lives of Teenagers gives parents the science-based information they need to guide their teens through a challenging developmental phase during challenging times. -- Provided by publisher.
Record details
- ISBN: 9780593500019
- ISBN: 0593500016
- Physical Description: xxiv, 226 pages ; 22 cm
- Edition: First edition.
- Publisher: New York : Ballantine Group, an imprint of Random House, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, 2023.
- Copyright: ©2023
Content descriptions
Bibliography, etc. Note: | Includes bibliographical references and index. |
Formatted Contents Note: | Adolescent emotion 101: Getting past three big myths -- Gender and emotion -- Seismic shift: How adolescence puts a new emotional spin on everyday life -- Managing emotions, part one: Helping teens express their feelings -- Managing emotions, part two: Helping teens regain emotional control. |
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Subject: | Emotions in adolescence. Teenagers > Social conditions. Parent and teenager. |
Genre: | Informational works. |
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Table of Contents
The Emotional Lives of Teenagers : Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents
Section | Section Description | Page Number |
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Introduction | xv | |
Chapter 1 | Adolescent Emotion 101: Getting Past Three Big Myths | 3 |
Myth #1 | Emotion is the Enemy of Reason | 5 |
Helping Teenagers Learn to Trust Their Gut | 8 | |
A Caveat: Teen Judgment Can Be Context-Dependent | 11 | |
Myth #2 | Difficult Emotions Are Bad for Teens | 15 |
Emotional Discomfort Promotes Growth | 17 | |
When Should Teens Be Shielded from Emotional Pain? | 21 | |
Myth #3 | With Their Amped-Up Emotions, Teens Are Psychologically Fragile | 24 |
Emotional Does Not Mean Fragile | 27 | |
When Is Professional Support in Order? | 31 | |
Chapter 2 | Gender and Emotion | 36 |
Why Gender Differences Matter | 38 | |
Gender Rules Start Early | 40 | |
Gender Differences in Empathy and Aggression | 41 | |
Girls and Anger | 46 | |
Gender and the Adultification of Black Teens | 49 | |
Gender Differences in Psychopathology | 51 | |
Helping Girls Handle Anger | 53 | |
Helping Boys Talk About Their Feelings | 55 | |
How Peers Reinforce Gender Rules (and What to Do About It) | 58 | |
The Roots of Harassment | 64 | |
Teens and Self-Esteem | 67 | |
Beyond the Traditional Gender Binary | 70 | |
Chapter 3 | Seismic Shift: How Adolescence Puts a New Emotional Spin on Everyday Life | 74 |
A Brain Under Major Construction | 76 | |
Why Your Teen Hates How You Chew | 80 | |
Heightened Friction, and How to Deal with It | 86 | |
Risk Seeking, and How to Keep Teens Safe | 91 | |
Starting Life Online | 95 | |
Keeping Technology in Its Place | 98 | |
Peer Relationships, Both Romantic and Not | 100 | |
Why Teenagers Dislike School | 106 | |
Chapter 4 | Managing Emotions, Part One: Helping Teens Express Their Feelings | 111 |
Talking About Feelings Works | 114 | |
Listening, Really Listening, Matters | 117 | |
Empathy Goes Further than We Think | 119 | |
Helping Teens Get Specific About Feelings | 121 | |
Getting Teens to Open Up | 123 | |
Letting Teens Set the Terms of Engagement | 127 | |
Taking and Making Conversational Openings | 130 | |
Owning and Repairing Parenting Mistakes | 132 | |
Valuing Nonverbal Expression | 138 | |
Recognizing Unhealthy Emotional Expression | 142 | |
Chapter 5 | Managing Emotions, Part Two: Helping Teens Regain Emotional Control | 145 |
When Emotions Need to Be Brought Under Control | 148 | |
Distraction-An Important Tool for Emotion Regulation | 150 | |
Small Pleasures, Big-Time Mood Control | 155 | |
Taking Sleep Seriously | 158 | |
Deliberate Breathing-Sounds Absurd, Works Great | 162 | |
How to Give Advice to a Teenager | 165 | |
Changing Feelings by Correcting Thinking | 167 | |
Helping Teens Adopt a New Vantage Point | 172 | |
As Parents, Managing Our Own Emotions | 175 | |
Recognizing Harmful Emotional Control | 179 | |
Conclusion | 183 | |
Acknowledgments | 185 | |
Notes | 187 | |
Recommended Resources | 213 | |
Index | 217 |