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Divorce without court : a guide to mediation & collaborative divorce / Attorney-Mediator Katherine E. Stoner.
"This book guides the reader through the steps of negotiating a divorce settlement by using mediation or collaborative law. It discusses how to: choose the right negotiation method; maximize opportunities for settlement; get an agreement in writing; find mediators, attorneys, and advisers; and protect one's children. It also provides state court websites, contact information for mediation organizations, and examples of what one can expect in mediation or collaborative divorce"-- Provided by publisher.
Record details
- ISBN: 9781413328707
- ISBN: 1413328709
- Physical Description: 465 pages ; 23 cm
- Edition: Sixth edition.
- Publisher: Berkeley, California : Nolo, 2021.
Content descriptions
| General Note: | Includes index. |
| Formatted Contents Note: | The role of mediation and collaborative law in the divorce process -- What happens in mediation -- What happens in a collaborative divorce -- Deciding to mediate or collaborate -- Proposing mediation or collaboration to your spouse -- Finding a mediator -- Finding a collaborative attorney -- Using advisers and doing legal research -- Getting started on information gathering -- Preparing for and making the most of the first session -- Evaluating your progress in mediation or collaborative divorce -- Communicating in mediation or collaborative divorce -- Negotiating in mediation or collaborative divorce -- Court-sponsored mediation -- Encountering difficulties in mediation and collaboration -- Writing up the divorce agreement -- Divorce for same-sex couples -- Women and men in mediation and collaborative divorce -- Unmarried couples in mediation and collaboration -- Mediation and collaboration after divorce. |
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| Subject: | Divorce mediation > United States > Popular works. Collaborative divorce > United States > Popular works. |
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Divorce Without Court : A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Divorce
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Table of Contents
Divorce Without Court : A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Divorce
| Section | Section Description | Page Number |
|---|---|---|
| Introduction: Divorce Without Court: Your Best Option | p. 1 | |
| What Exactly Are Mediation and Collaboration? | p. 2 | |
| Why Mediate or Collaborate? Consider the Alternative | p. 5 | |
| Divorce Decision Spectrum | p. 7 | |
| Mediation or Collaboration: Still a Better Option for Divorcing Same-Sex Couples | p. 8 | |
| You've Decided to Mediate: When Do You Start? | p. 10 | |
| Divorce Law in Your State: How to Get Accurate Information | p. 10 | |
| Getting the Most Out of This Book | p. 11 | |
| 1 | The Role of Mediation and Collaborative Law in the Divorce Process | p. 15 |
| Virtual Divorce: Has the COVID-19 Pandemic Permanently Changed the Process? | p. 17 | |
| The Four Divorces | p. 18 | |
| Keeping It Simple: The Uncontested Divorce | p. 28 | |
| Beyond the Basics: The Contested Divorce | p. 30 | |
| Long-Term Effects of a Contested Legal Divorce | p. 41 | |
| Mediation and Collaboration: A Different Way to Divorce | p. 41 | |
| 2 | What Happens in Mediation? | p. 43 |
| An Overview of Mediation | p. 44 | |
| Introductory Stage | p. 47 | |
| Information-Gathering Stage | p. 53 | |
| Framing Stage | p. 58 | |
| Negotiating Stage | p. 61 | |
| Concluding Stage | p. 66 | |
| Assessing the Cost of Robert and Fran's Mediation | p. 69 | |
| 3 | What Happens in a Collaborative Divorce? | p. 71 |
| An Overview of Collaborative Divorce | p. 72 | |
| Introductory Stage | p. 77 | |
| Information-Gathering Stage | p. 83 | |
| Framing Stage | p. 86 | |
| Negotiating Stage | p. 88 | |
| Concluding Stage | p. 91 | |
| Assessing the Cost of Cole and Traci's Collaborative Divorce | p. 93 | |
| Traci and Cole's Collaborative Divorce Agreement | p. 96 | |
| 4 | Deciding to Mediate or Collaborate | p. 103 |
| Is Mediation or Collaboration Right for You? | p. 104 | |
| It Takes Agreement of Both Spouses | p. 117 | |
| Comparing Mediation and Collaborative Divorce | p. 117 | |
| Making Your Choice Between Mediation and Collaboration | p. 124 | |
| 5 | Proposing Mediation or Collaboration to Your Spouse | p. 127 |
| When to Propose Mediation or Collaborative Divorce | p. 128 | |
| Who Should Propose Mediation or Collaboration? | p. 135 | |
| How to Propose Mediation or Collaborative Divorce | p. 137 | |
| Dos and Don'ts of Proposing Mediation or Collaboration | p. 140 | |
| Sample Letter Proposing Mediation | p. 144 | |
| Sample Letter Proposing Collaborative Divorce | p. 146 | |
| 6 | Finding a Mediator | p. 149 |
| Do You Need a Local Mediator? | p. 150 | |
| Finding the Right Mediator | p. 151 | |
| Qualified Mediators: What to Look For | p. 153 | |
| Finding the Right Fit | p. 162 | |
| Who Provides Mediation Services? | p. 170 | |
| Screening and Interviewing Potential Mediators | p. 174 | |
| Interviewing and Selecting a Mediator | p. 176 | |
| 7 | Finding a Collaborative Attorney | p. 177 |
| Finding the Right Collaborative Attorney | p. 178 | |
| Qualified Attorneys: What to Look For | p. 181 | |
| Finding the Right Fit | p. 187 | |
| Screening and Interviewing Potential Lawyers | p. 193 | |
| Interviewing and Selecting a Collaborative Lawyer | p. 195 | |
| 8 | Using Advisers and Doing Legal Research | p. 197 |
| How and When to Use Advisers in Mediation | p. 199 | |
| The Role of Family and Friends in Your Divorce | p. 203 | |
| Legal Adviser | p. 204 | |
| Counselor | p. 216 | |
| Financial Adviser | p. 219 | |
| Specialized Advisers | p. 224 | |
| Coordinating Your Advisers | p. 227 | |
| Finding Answers to Legal Questions: Legal Research Online and Off | p. 227 | |
| 9 | Getting Started on Information Gathering | p. 233 |
| Step One: Remember Vital Statistics | p. 235 | |
| Step Two: Assess Your Children's Needs | p. 235 | |
| Step Three: Locate and Copy Important Documents | p. 241 | |
| Step Four: Inventory Your Assets and Debts | p. 244 | |
| Step Five: Summarize Your Income and Make a Budget | p. 252 | |
| Step Six: Pause to Reflect | p. 257 | |
| 10 | Preparing for and Making the Most of the First Session | p. 259 |
| Getting Ready | p. 260 | |
| Mediator Approaches and Styles | p. 268 | |
| Mediator Neutrality and Bias | p. 278 | |
| Confidentiality of the Mediation | p. 279 | |
| Agreement to Mediate | p. 280 | |
| Take Time to Make Notes | p. 281 | |
| 11 | Evaluating Your Progress in Mediation or Collaborative Divorce | p. 289 |
| Evaluating the Decision to Mediate | p. 290 | |
| Evaluating the Decision to Use Collaborative Divorce | p. 292 | |
| Monitoring Your Progress in Mediation or Collaboration | p. 294 | |
| 12 | Communicating in Mediation or Collaborative Divorce | p. 297 |
| What Is Communication? | p. 298 | |
| What Can Go Wrong in Communications? | p. 299 | |
| Tips for Good Communication | p. 300 | |
| Tips for Communicating About Problems | p. 305 | |
| Handling Strong Emotions in Communication | p. 308 | |
| 13 | Negotiating in Mediation or Collaborative Divorce | p. 317 |
| We Negotiate All the Time | p. 319 | |
| What Makes for a Successful Negotiation? | p. 320 | |
| Prepare for the Negotiation | p. 342 | |
| Negotiate Clearly, Firmly, and Respectfully | p. 352 | |
| 14 | Court-Sponsored Mediation | p. 355 |
| Types of Court-Sponsored Mediation Programs | p. 358 | |
| How Court-Sponsored Mediation Works | p. 359 | |
| Voluntary Mediation: To Try or Not? | p. 361 | |
| Mandatory Mediation: Opting Out | p. 363 | |
| If You Can't Opt Out of Mandatory Mediation | p. 365 | |
| Preparing for Court-Sponsored Mediation | p. 366 | |
| Attending the Mediation Session | p. 369 | |
| After the Mediation Session | p. 373 | |
| 15 | Encountering Difficulties in Mediation and Collaboration | p. 375 |
| Four-Step Approach to Dealing With Difficulties | p. 377 | |
| Discrepancies Between This Book and Your Experience | p. 379 | |
| Delays and Disconnects | p. 379 | |
| Tantrums and Other "Bad" Behavior | p. 382 | |
| Extreme Discomfort in Mediation | p. 383 | |
| Impasse: Negotiation Hits a Brick Wall | p. 385 | |
| Last-Minute Changes and Demands | p. 389 | |
| Dealing With Persistent Problems | p. 390 | |
| Leaving Mediation Without Burning Your Bridges | p. 392 | |
| Where There's a Will, There's a Way | p. 393 | |
| 16 | Writing Up the Divorce Agreement | p. 395 |
| Interim or Temporary Agreements | p. 397 | |
| Partial Agreements | p. 397 | |
| Why Put Interim and Partial Agreements in Writing? | p. 398 | |
| Writing Up the Final Settlement and Finalizing Your Divorce | p. 400 | |
| 17 | Women and Men in Mediation and Collaborative Divorce | p. 407 |
| Historical Background | p. 408 | |
| Gender and Mandatory Mediation | p. 410 | |
| Gender and Voluntary Mediation | p. 411 | |
| Common Gender-Related Obstacles | p. 411 | |
| 18 | Unmarried Couples in Mediation and Collaboration | p. 419 |
| Untying the Nonmarital Knot: Opportunities and Pitfalls | p. 422 | |
| Successful Mediation or Collaborative Separation | p. 426 | |
| 19 | Mediation and Collaboration After Divorce | p. 431 |
| Dealing With Changes in the Divorce Agreement | p. 432 | |
| If You Decide to Mediate | p. 433 | |
| If You Decide to Collaborate | p. 435 | |
| Mediating New Relationship Issues | p. 436 | |
| Appendixes | ||
| A | How to Use the Downloadable Forms on the Nolo Website | p. 443 |
| Editing RTFs | p. 444 | |
| List of Forms Available on the Nolo Website | p. 445 | |
| Additional Notes on Editing the Downloadable Forms in Divorce Without Court | p. 446 | |
| B | State Court Websites | p. 447 |
| Index | p. 451 |
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