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Fight right : how successful couples turn conflict into connection / Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD and John Gottman, PhD.


How we fight predicts the future of our relationships. Most of us blunder into conflict without knowing what we are really fighting about and then quickly become overwhelmed by physiological responses we can’t control and emotions we don’t anticipate. The truth is the happiest and most successful couples fight—all the time. Conflict is human, and necessary.Through decades of research, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, founders of the world-famous Love Lab, have identified the five common mistakes we make when we are at odds. In Fight Right, we learn the five secrets that help us to get back on track and harness conflict to build stronger, healthier relationships. With kindness, clarity, and a deep understanding of the struggles couples are going through, the Gottmans show us that we each have a unique conflict culture, borne of how we were raised and how we experienced past relationships, and they take us through all the possible combinations, from Avoiders, to Validators, to Volatiles, and how they can best work together. Fight Right is an essential resource that will help couples escape the win-or-lose mentality in favor of a collaborative approach: calming down, staying connected, and really understanding, so that our fights can bring us closer. Provided by publisher.

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  • ISBN: 9780593579657
  • ISBN: 0593579658
  • Physical Description: 344 pages : illustrations ; 24 cm
  • Edition: First edition.
  • Publisher: New York : Harmony, [2024]

Content descriptions

Bibliography, etc. Note:
Includes bibliographical references (pages 336-340) and index (pages 341-344).
Formatted Contents Note:
Introduction: what are we fighting for? -- Part one: conflict -- Why we fight -- Why we fight the way we fight -- What we fight about -- Part two: the five fights everybody has -- Fight #1: the bomb drop -- Fight #2: the flood -- Fight #3: the shallows --Fight #4: the standoff -- Fight #5: the chasm in the room -- Conclusion: the good fight.
Subject: Couples therapy > Popular works.
Couples > Psychology > Popular works.
Interpersonal communication > Popular works.
Interpersonal relations > Popular works.
Conflict management > Popular works.
Genre: Informational works.
Self-help publications.

Available copies

  • 10 of 14 copies available at Missouri Evergreen. (Show)
  • 0 of 1 copy available at North Kansas City.


  • 3 current holds with 14 total copies.
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Location Call Number / Copy Notes Barcode Shelving Location Status Due Date
North Kansas City Public Library 616.89156 GOTTMAN 2024 (Text) 0001012536365 Nonfiction New On holds shelf -

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