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The shift : change your perspective, not yourself / Tinx.

Tinx, 1990- (author.).


It's time to get laser-focused on what makes us feel happy and fulfilled. Lifestyle creator, advice expert, and podcast host Tinx wants to take your hand and guide you to a new way of thinking about life, love, happiness, and friendships--where dating evolves into an era of self-discovery and not just a means to an end; sharing wisdom becomes a collective power; and chaos turns into a source of creativity. Making small but mighty shifts in thinking can be a tool for personal growth that fuels you instead of fatigues you. The point is to know yourself, discover what fulfills you, and have fun along the way. In The Shift, Tinx collects all her revolutionary theories and hilarious personal anecdotes in one place, presenting you with a guide to simple mindset shifts that will completely change the way you approach decision-making and relationships. -- Provided by publisher.

Record details

  • ISBN: 9781668007631
  • ISBN: 1668007630
  • Physical Description: xx, 263 pages ; 23 cm
  • Edition: First Simon & Schuster hardcover edition.
  • Publisher: New York : Simon & Schuster, 2023.

Content descriptions

Bibliography, etc. Note:
Includes bibliographical references and index.
Formatted Contents Note:
Part 1: Dating (crushes, texting, first dates, and hooking up) -- Scarcity mindset: Her success is not my failure -- Crush list: Part manifestation, part organization, magic spell-meets-spreadsheet -- Before the first message: Dating apps, DMs, and the art of online stallking -- Before the first date: A course in box theory -- Reverse box theory: Evidence-based thinking vs. future tripping -- The talking phase: Texting means everything and it also doesn't matter -- "When we hanging?" and other things that don't count as dating -- Tinx's calendar calculus: Your cheat sheet for dating timeline best practices -- Fuck me sideways: Sex on your terms -- A hot girl's guide: How to trap a fuckboi -- Data collection: How to work through the tantrum and keep the scent going -- Ick list: The anti-crush list -- POV: Main character energy -- RMW: The nonnegotiables of your life -- Software update: Dating in other cities -- Beware, hazards ahead: Ghosting, breakcrumbing, and love bombing -- Closing ceremonies: Holding funerals -- Part 2: Together and apart (coupling up, breaking up, and getting over it) -- Boyfriends: When you know, you (don't) know -- Investment strategy for relationships: Stockbroker vs. venture capitalist approach -- What about when everything is great? -- Boyfriend sickness: There is no cure, only containment -- Heartbreak antibodies: Building up your immunity -- Young Gemini: Better to have loved and lost -- Living well is the best revenge: Thoughts on cheating -- Say it with me: Men always come back or their lives get worse -- The road to recovery: Rest, routine, reevaluation, and rebounds -- I've had the time of my life: An ode to being single -- Fake boyfriends: Navigating the delicate balance of platonic friendships -- Gimme a break: A guide to dumping with dignity -- Part 3: Self-worth and self-knowledge (the era of self-discovery) -- All by myself... Just wanna be... All by myself -- Good ideas from bad places: Pulling creativity out of chaos -- How to lose friends and influence people -- Hoes over bros: How to be a better friend -- If you don't have anything nice to say: A better way to talk about bodies -- Best hour of the week: What therapy has taught me -- Parents are just people: How to make sense of your life by examining your mom and dad -- The ultimate shift: Taking responsibility for your own happiness -- Different strokes: Following your own timeline.
Subject: Change (Psychology)
Attitude (Psychology)
Dating (Social customs)
Self-actualization (Psychology)
Self-esteem in women.
Genre: Informational works.
Instructional and educational works.
Self-help publications.

Available copies

  • 9 of 9 copies available at Missouri Evergreen. (Show)
  • 1 of 1 copy available at North Kansas City.


  • 0 current holds with 9 total copies.
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North Kansas City Public Library 158.1 TINX 2023 (Text) 0001012514147 Nonfiction Available -

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