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The secret life of secrets : how our inner worlds shape well-being, relationships, and who we are  Cover Image Book Book

The secret life of secrets : how our inner worlds shape well-being, relationships, and who we are / Michael Slepian.

Slepian, Michael, (author.).

Record details

  • ISBN: 9780593237212
  • ISBN: 0593237218
  • Physical Description: 236 pages ; 22 cm
  • Edition: First edition.
  • Publisher: New York : Crown, [2022]

Content descriptions

Bibliography, etc. Note:
Includes bibliographical references (pages [199]-236) and index.
Formatted Contents Note:
What is a Secret? -- The Birth of Secrets -- Secrets on the Mind -- The Three Dimensions of Secrets -- Concealing our Secrets -- Confessing and Confiding -- Positive Secrets -- Culture and Coping -- Secrets Shared.
Summary, etc.:
"Think of a secret that you're keeping from others. It shouldn't take long; behavioral scientist Michael Slepian finds that on average, we are keeping as many as thirteen secrets at any given time. His research involving more than 50,000 participants fromaround the globe shows that the most common secrets include: lies we've told, addiction or mental health challenges, a hidden relationship, financial struggles, and more. Our secrets can weigh heavily upon us. Yet the burden of secrecy, Slepian argues, rarely stems from the work it takes to keep a secret hidden. Rather, secrets are something we must "carry" because we do so alone, without the support of others. Whether we are motivated to protect our reputation, a relationship, or a loved one's feelings,or are pursuing some personal or professional goal, one thing is clear: holding back some part of our inner world is often lonely and isolating. But it doesn't have to be. Filled with fresh insight into one of the most universal-yet least understood-aspects of human behavior, The Secret Life of Secrets sheds a fascinating new light on questions like: At what age do children develop the cognitive capacity for secrecy? Do all secrets come with the same mental load? How can we reconcile our secrets with thehuman desire to relate, connect, and be known? When should we confess our secrets? Who makes for the ideal confidant? And can certain types of secrets actually enhance our well-being?"-- Provided by publisher.
Subject: Secrecy.
Family secrets.
Identity (Psychology)
Interpersonal relations.

Available copies

  • 6 of 9 copies available at Missouri Evergreen. (Show)
  • 0 of 1 copy available at North Kansas City.


  • 0 current holds with 9 total copies.
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Location Call Number / Copy Notes Barcode Shelving Location Status Due Date
North Kansas City Public Library 302.2 SLEPIAN 2022 (Text) 0001002418034 Nonfiction New Checked out 08/29/2022

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